Learning that I was expecting my first child was a dream come true. I have had a wonderful pregnancy, free from morning sickness and major swelling (so far). I have a healthy appetite, I’m on my normal gym routine and have been blessed with great skin, hair and nails. The pregnancy aside, all that matters now is a healthy, happy baby.
While I have been measuring small (according to my OB), I still get inappropriate and often hurtful comments. A lady stopped me last week and said “Oh dear, you look like you are about to pop.” I am sure the look of disgust was clear on my face. Then she proceeded to discuss her children, so I’m assuming she has been pregnant several times. Did she not know how inappropriate her comment was? Or insensitive?
On another occasion, Giovanni and I were out to dinner. (We are trying to fit in as much quality time as possible before the baby arrives). I felt particularly good that evening and thankfully, my honey is always full of compliments. But as we were getting ready to leave, one staff member said a few kind words and then asked when I was due. When I replied “September 2″, her response was “Do you know how much the baby weighs?” “Yes, 5 pounds” I said. Needless to say what came next was not kind: “Oh my goodness you are going to have a HUGE baby. You are so little. How are you ever going to do that?”
What is it about pregnancy that makes people think comments are welcome at all times? As a woman’s body changes and prepares for the miracle of life, it is a journey filled with powerful emotions — not to mention raging hormones. Comments about size, methods, potential baby names, how drastically life will change after the baby, how perfect or awful your pregnancy may have been or how horrible delivery and recovery will be are not appropriate! And please, do not touch a pregnant woman’s belly. It is an invasion of her personal space and almost never welcome.
Thankfully I have wonderful family and friends who are always full of compliments! So the old adage is true: “If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all.”